Weird Pepita

Marriage, as people often say, isn't just about love. It's about learning to love, not only when everything feels easy and romantic, but especially when things get hard,  when egos clash,  when silence stretches longer than it should,  and when patience becomes a daily practice. As we’re approaching our first year, I’ve been reflecting a lot. My mom said in our nasihat pernikahan “Harus sabar. Kalau udah habis gimana? Ya sabarnya ditambah lagi. Abis itu? Sabarnya ditambah lagi, pokoknya sabar, sabar, sabar yang harus ditambah terus” & turns out, marriage involves a significant amount of forgiveness . And not always the loud, dramatic kind. Sometimes forgiveness looks like quiet understanding. Like choosing not to respond harshly. Like a hand reaching out in the middle of the night. Like staying, despite everything. Sometimes I find us both weird, in a sweet, mismatched, "how-did-we-end-up-here" kind of way. He gives the silent treatment… but he forgives more than ...